Talking about our bad habits, addictions, failures, and faults can be emotionally draining. It is good to know what you DON’T want to do, but it’s even better to know what you DO want to do.
If you’re driving a car and all you know is where you DON’T want to go, you’re not going to get anywhere. If you know where you DO want to go and then figure out the most efficient way to get there, you’ll be going all sorts of places (with a few guaranteed speed bumps along the way, of course).
So what is your ideal vision of yourself? Your lifestyle? Your relationships with others?
Don’t think in terms of ‘I don’t want to be fat,’ or ‘I want to quit smoking.’
Instead, think in positive terms: ‘I want to eat healthier foods,’ or ‘I want to breathe more freely.’
There’s a lot more to goal-setting that we could talk about, but looking at things more positively is a great place to start, and will eventually become a habit if you stay persistent and patient.